By Charlotte Raftery, SC
How did I come to be in ministry with the Sisters at Mary the Queen, and now with the Sisters in Schervier and St. Patrick’s Home? You might say God called me when I saw the advertisement for the job at Mary the Queen, and Sister Kathleen McHugh hired me. The call came again when we were told about the closing, and I heard an inner voice saying, “Fogarty, that’s all right; there is somebody up there.” For the Sisters sake, we had to “control” feelings. I went home and cried for two days… “What am I going to do?” Again, an inner voice came, “it will be o.k. God is with me.” Just “hang out…” For three weeks… just had a sense… then Sharon Dosin, Director of Human Resources, told me about the newly-created position.
I just love being with the Sisters. It is very meaningful. It is something I am meant to do. Little by little I had been being pointed in this direction. I put myself in their place; imagine myself in their shoes and how I would want to be treated. It means taking an extra moment just to pay attention to the little things that tell you something; having the flexibility to be able to “back off” until Sister is comfortable with the plan. Their trust means a lot of intimacy. They know who they can trust. I always look to each to see the real reaction. I have earned the trust and respect of the staff, helping out when they are shorthanded, not considering it a “favor.”
I have gradually grown into the role over two years — I just love the work. It is meaningful, something I am meant to do. I have learned a lot about myself, am honored that the Sisters trust me — they would “follow me to the moon.” Someday this will be “us.” We do not know the future.
Melissa, you do a wonderful job! May the Lord continue to bless you!
Melissa is truly a wonderful person- I already knew this from knowing her in PT while recuperating at the Queen.Her caring joyful presence means so much.We are truly blessed that she is with us.
She is also a great cat sitter!
I love this interview with Melissa Perez. I’m so happy she loves her meaningful job helping the dear sisters at this stage of their lives in a nursing facility. Yes, it is most meaningful and a joy for them to have someone minister to them who finds joy in it too!
Thanks for the info about Melissa and thank you Melissa. I did not know of your role with the Sisters. I am happy to hear about you. God Bless
Hi Mellisa, it is always great to see you visiting with the Sisters at St. Patrick’s, you love them & that is what it is all about, keep up your good work. Xo
This was a lovely story about faith and trust. Everyone should experience this type of relationship in their life. It makes it a joy and a celebration .
Thanks for sharing.